Self-help books have changed, and still are changing, my life for the better. I have no doubt about that.
I used to suffer terribly with anxiety over the smallest, most trivial things. I would overthink conversations, and interviews and decisions. I would always worry what others would think if I put myself forward for something, whether I succeeded in getting it or not. I now know that I should not have cared about what others thought, and should have recognised that every time I push myself out of my comfort zone, I am pushing myself into my zone of development, and am moving towards a better version of myself. This should far outweigh any fear of judgement!
Reading books written by very wise people in the realm of personal development has without a doubt pushed my mentality to levels it could not have reached otherwise.
Hey, I know what you're thinking. Sounds like a load of *insert expletive here*! I also remember writing off self-help books. I used to think:
Oh god. Those books look so weird. Why would anyone read a book about self-help? Why do they need help? What do they need help with...? Surely they are only intended for people who are into yoga and spirituality and who only knows what else? Not for me...
These are just some of the types of thoughts I used to have when I heard the phrase 'self-help books'. It was all a mystery to me, and for a good while, a mystery I let my ego get in the way of exploring. Now? I am OBSESSED with self-help and personal development books. I actually no longer make time for fictional books, because I am learning so much from the great people of our past and present, and can't wait to read the next book on my list (fictional books are amazing too and I will still read them, I am just on such a roll with self-help)!
Trust me, there is nothing that you want to do that someone has not tried to do before, and if it is a novel idea or approach - that's great, but why not follow other leaders in innovation? Henry Ford, Albert Einstein, Marie Curie, Elon Musk, Michelle Obama... they may not have done work in the same field as you (although I am sure there are books out there by people who have!), but the principles of how they achieved greatness are a powerful source of learning for us. Reading their stories helps us to learn that they were not superhuman (to begin with at least!) but by implementing the right behaviours, habits and strategies, they achieved results beyond imagination.
For example, you want to start up a new business. Sure, it might be based on new, never-before-seen technology, but oh my goodness so many millions of people have set up a business before you with limited resources and with any other variable that is concerning you too. The principles people who came before you applied will most likely apply to you too, do not let your ego tell you otherwise. Isn't that the best news ever? That we do not have to reinvent the wheel? Whatever we want to achieve is doable because people before us have done what was previously unthinkable, so you can too. Reaffirm your beliefs about what you are capable of by reading more of the right books, and I am sure you will find yourself taking action to move closer to your goals.
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1. Mental Strength - Iain Abernethy.
This book explains how to develop a mind strong enough to push past all obstacles so that nothing will be able to stand between you and your goals.
Mental Strength gives clear, encouraging guidance on how to develop a strong and powerful mind, grow your talents, become the person you want to be, and live the life you want to live.
I really thoroughly enjoyed it, and found myself going through it wanting to highlight different key points, and have even read it twice! I think it was the very first specific 'self-help' book I had ever read - and it really changed ny whole mindset/reaffirmed some of the beliefs I had had but was maybe scared to commit to.
Get it here. Or click on the image below.